It's the Little Things by Lena Williams (2000)

Subtitled: Everyday Interactions That Anger, Annoy, and Divide the Races. Everyone should read this highly personal non-fiction written by a black female journalist about the interactions between blacks and whites. From hair flipping by whites, to inappropriate use of first names to making way for others on the sidewalk, a lot of things that whites may take as bad manners are regarded as white privilege by blacks.  PS: This is totally her racial terminology that I'm using here.